I have many friends who are “dance moms,” it’s part of the business of being a former dance instructor and now a dancewear designer.
And while I love seeing my friends’ little dancers grow and learn, I get sad when I hear the stories about how competitive dance has become (in some studios), particularly for younger children.
This is what I mean:
I have a friend whose daughter has, what some call, a “learned gymnast’s form”. Her back arches more than usual while dancing. It’s not a tragedy, but it changes the way she carries herself and while there’s no real problem with it, it can be an “issue” with stricter forms of dance like ballet.
Her little girl has been left out of competitions, recitals and award opportunities at her studio. She’s only 10 and her mother is understandably heartbroken because, although she’s begged the teachers to help sort out her little girls posture or allow her to participate at the next level, this hard working little dancer is simply being left behind.
When a Dance Studio is Too Competitive
Dance moms, we need to be watchful and know when a studio is getting too competitive. From the awards ceremonies to the high-pressure auditions, it’s all designed to pile on the stress. Why do we allow this to happen? It doesn’t always translate to better dancers. Sometimes, that high-pressure atmosphere ends up discouraging dancers who become disheartened after falling behind even a little bit.
As a former instructor, I believe that dance is about expression and creativity first and foremost.
Competition comes second.
If you suspect your little dancer’s studio is too competitive or there’s a risk your child may be left behind, schedule a meeting with the studio director right away. Talk about your concerns, their thoughts on your child and how you and the studio can move forward.
If the studio is unwilling to talk with you or be proactive, take your business elsewhere.
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